DEFINITION OF A BIBLICAL MENTOR:  A relational learning process in which a mentor helps a mentee reach his God-given potential.  "Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and the Son and the Holy Spirit.  And teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you."  (Matt. 28: 19,20) (II Timothy 2:2)

MENTORING PRINCIPLES FOR “FREEDOM WORKS”

THE VERTICAL RELATIONSHIP OF THE MENTOR IS VITAL. (John 15: 4,5)

GROWTH/ CHANGE:  IT’S GOD’S JOB, NOT YOURS (Phillippians 1:6)

    • Godly Role Model
    • Gives Godly Counsel
    • Introduces Mentee to other Christians
    • Love = Action  

    • First 90 days: Intensive Mentoring

      Mentee comes out of prison with No church home or family support.  They have family and friends in the area who are still using and abusing drugs or alcohol.  Temptations are great and transitioning out of prison life hard, demanding more intense mentoring–especially if  one has been incarcerated for a long period of time.

    • Next 3-12 months: Passive Mentoring

      Mentee is getting settled in his job and becoming active in church and other support systems.  Mentee is not associating with negative influences from his past.

    REMEMBER:  Count the cost, don’t enter into this ministry lightly.  The demands are great, but so are the rewards.  The battle is the Lord’s!

    • OBSERVING

      Basic Warning Signs:  Mentee distances himself emotionally and/or physically; Mentee over commits himself; Mentee denies destructive patterns in his life; Mentee spends time with companions from his past.

      • Take time for careful observation
      • Separate observation from judgments
      • Address impact on goals and relationships
      • Ask if you are a part of the problem
      • Check out your theories and talk with the person involved

    • Questioning

    • Listening

    • Giving Feedback

      • Give timely feedback
      • Give specific feedback
      • Give descriptive feedback
      • Give clear feedback
      • Focus on behavior and it’s implications

    • Reaching agreement on an Action Plan

      • Start a discussion
      • Get mentee’s input
      • Help formulate a goal
      • Help develop an action plan
      • Get mentee’s commitment
      • Schedule follow-up

    • Discipler
    • Spiritual Mentor
    • Counselor
    • Teacher
    • Sponsor

*From an ISI Mentor Orientation by Rocky DeYoung

 

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